Celebrating Everything IFS
Hi, I'm Niney Marie
IFS-Informed Practitioner
I'm creating this website out of deep love for the IFS community and everything they have done for me. It has been a safe and sacred place of tremendous healing, transformation and profound spiritual intimacy with myself, others and God. I have spent years gathering these IFS resources and hope that by compiling them in one place it will make it easier to find and connect with one another so that we can all continue to come together and be a blessing in each other's journey's as an IFS family
Self
The Self knows all
Is not born, does not die
Is not the effect of any cause
Is eternal, self existent
Imperishable, ancient
It is subtler than the subtlest
Greater than the greatest
They go beyond sorrow
Who behold the glory of the Self through love
Who knows the Self
Bodiless among the embodied
Permanent among the impermanent
Prevalent everywhere
From the Upanishads, Ancient Text
The 8 C's in IFS
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Compassion
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Curiosity
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Clarity
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Creativity
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Calm
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Confidence
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Courage
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Connectedness
The 5 P's in IFS
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Playfulness
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Patience
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Presence
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Perspective
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Persistence
Let's Talk Parts
What is a part?
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We are born with parts, they are not born out of trauma.
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Inherent to the system
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Have a function in our system & are here to help us during this lifetime
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Parts are "our humanity" they help us engage in the world
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All parts have a positive intent
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Sub-personalities or aspects of our personality
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Each part contains a full range of emotion.
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"Burden parts" have been forced from their natural role and into an extreme one.
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Not all parts are wounded
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A part can have their own parts (it's all fractals)
Parts Can Be Experienced As
Thoughts
Emotions
Sensations
Images
Words
Sounds
Felt Sense
Inner Voices
Physical Symptoms
Impressions
Movement (voluntary or involuntary)
Activation of Parts
Parts aren't activated all the time but when a part is active it will:
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Influence your feelings
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Influence your behaviors
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Influence the stories you tell yourself
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Influences the meaning you put on things
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Influence your belief system
When fully blended, it believes it's you.
What are "Burdens"
Mistaken beliefs, feelings, sensations & energies accumulated by past hurts or trauma. Parts are not their burdens, they carry burdens. These burdens shape their perception of the world, becoming their truth. However, once these burdens are released, parts can return to their natural role and fulfill their purpose
Protectors
Managers - Careful & Cerebral (don't want to lose a sense of control)
Firefighters - Impulsive & Reactive (seems like they take you out of control}
Protectors Need
#1 - To be honored, respected & appreciated
#2 - To feel welcomed & understood
#3 - To be validated & witnessed
#4 - As much time as they need to build trust
#5 - Befriended
Managers
Proactive
Their motto is "Never Again"
Managers are very dedicated to what might happen in the future & prevent that. They keep you functioning in daily life.
Firefighters
Reactive
Think of what firefighters do. They rush to emergencies, break windows, bust down doors and demolish anything in their way. Whatever it takes to "put of the fire"
Exiles
Experienced trauma or other overwhelming hurt.
Shameful memories
Stuck in the past
Young vulnerable part
Isolate from the system